It feels like I'm in Hell.

1 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-03 02:32

I recently learned that I fathered a kid with a one night stand and he's already almost 2 years old. She doesn't know that I know. I feel like I'm living a nightmare. I know that I can't be a good father to him or enjoy my life anymore. I'm terrified of the financial, emotional, and social consequences of my mistake. I fear their family will soon come after me for money.

I've been having thoughts of suicide. I missed the birth of my first born son. A relationship with the mother would never work out. I've never been in love and now I feel it's impossible. I know this is selfish, but I just can't be there for him.

What should I do? It feels like I'm in Hell.

2 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-03 15:42

>>1
IF they ever come at you for money for the kid, counter sue the girl and her people on the grounds that you weren't included in the earliest stages of pregnancy or the child's life, and tell them you can't possibly prepare to raise a kid or pay for one with zero notice. At the very least a judge may grant you a "grace period" before you have to start paying. And it'll embarass their family and slow everything up and cause them to pay more.

3 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-03 16:39

>>2
I don't think that would ever hold up in court. Men always lose. I'd still be liable for many years of support and still would feel like shit for either abandoning a son or raising him when it would be so difficult for me. I also feel like I'll never find anyone to love now.

It's not all about money.

4 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-03 17:06

>>2
That's not how it works.

If the courts come after you for child support, OP'll be held responsible for all back support paid by the state.

It's possible that OP isn't even the father, that the mother has no idea who the hell the dad is since she was fucking so many men on one night stands.

It's simple OP. Just keep your mouth shut and move on OP.

If they do come after you for child support, agree to nothing without a paternity test.

5 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-03 17:33

>>1
It's been two years and she hasn't come after you and you say she doesn't even know you know. If you don't want the responsibility(s) then just ignore it, maybe move.

6 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-03 19:04

>>1
hey dumb fuck, they can't make you go to court or subpoena you if they dont know where you live?

Do you know how many lawsuits i won simply because retards didn't know how to serve me properly?

Move fucker. Dont have a facebook gaybo.

7 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-03 19:44

>>4
>>5
This.
How do you even know you're the father? are you just guessing because of the dates?

8 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-03 19:52

>>4
No, he looks just like me and the dates match up even though I was initially led to believe it wasn't mine.

>>5
I'm living in constant anxiety. I can barely sleep or go about daily activities. Can't just not think about it for the next 2 decades.

9 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-04 04:29

>>8
Pussy.

10 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-04 16:29

>>6
OP here.

I'm pretty sure they can easily serve me if they find my place of work or mail me at the address on file at the DMV.

It's not even just about money. It's the emotional and social impacts of this too.

11 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-04 18:08

As someone that just had a one night stand raw like a drunk idiot this terrifies me..

came after 5 minutes of a bj so no way I didn't pull out
only maybe pre-cum

Ease my mind or terrify me with the odds of her actually getting pregnant

she is quirky and likes anal so I wouldn't be the maddest if I was stuck with her and an adorable privileged offspring

12 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-04 18:29

>>8
grow the fuck up you spineless dickless little bitch

13 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-04 20:41

>>1

fathered a kid WITH a one night stand
with

What are you trying to say

14 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-05 02:02

OP here. I wanna be ready for when the inevitable happens. Already cleared anything embarrassing off my laptop and put good pics of me for my funeral on the desktop.
:(

Just need a plan now.

15 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-05 02:07

>>10
Ok. So let me get this strait.

1. you (supposedly) have a kid and are terrified of the financial aspects of the family coming after you for child support

2. you are emotionally overburdened by how your community will view that you are a deadbeat father.

3. other words.

Solution: Move puta. Your community wont look at you negatively if it's a different community where your greasy whore doesn't live.

You work at burger king and have your parents address on your drivers license? get another job. dont tell people where you work. dont put where you live on your driver's license retard.

You won't do all of those things and want to sit around and whine?

refer here: >>9

16 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-05 14:11

>>14
There's no possible advice that can help you through this other than the stuff you don't want to hear. Just ignore it, put it behind you until it becomes an issue and deal with it then. If you don't want it hovering over you, step up to it and confront her.

Why do you think she hasn't come to you yet after 2 years?

17 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-05 15:04

>>16
Probably just b/c she didn't want me involved at the start b/c she barely knows me. Now that the kid has grown up a little, she'll notify me for money and/or expecting me to come parent the child.

18 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-05 15:47

Seriously op?
Man up you little faggot. Make every effort you can to be a dad to the kid. Embrace it and enjoy the good parts out of the situation...and trust me there is a lot of good things ab being a father

19 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-05 18:12

lol that's what you get for having sex normie

20 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-05 18:59

>>10

killing yourself of fear?
make it a problem for someone else (future OP)

And don't care so much.
It's just your DNA, nothing more.
You didn't raise it, so don't let it be a important part in your life.

21 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-05 20:10

>>20
How can I not care when my financial future, my romantic future, my social future, my family future, my happiness, etc. is all ruined?

Will it get better? I just don't see the future looking good right now and it freaks me the fuck out.

22 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-06 03:19

I feel so fucking unlucky that this happened to me. This is like the only time I've had unprotected sex. She asked me to take it off and said that she was on birth control and I don't think I ever even ejaculated.

23 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-06 14:25

>>21
Make a list what could happen?
Is there at least one way it would work out?
When yes, don't kill yourself.

Imagine how dumb you would look if you would kill yourself now and she didn't even fucking care about you and would never have texted you about child support or some shit.

24 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-06 15:40

>>23
I don't see a way of it working out, honestly. I see a bleak future of slaving away at a job I hate for a family I never wanted.

I don't think she would not come after me for money and to want our child to know his father.

And if she never contacted me, I'd be in constant worry for the next 20 years and never be able to take financial risks or honestly tell girls I don't have a kid.

25 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-06 15:48

>>24
so you'd by like any married man in the Western world

can't be that bad, can it?

nope it's hell

26 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-06 15:50

>>24
Just live on.
When she texts you, kill yourself.
Nobody's gonna judge you for that.

But you are killing yourself because you fear something that isn't 100% sure to come.

Like killing yourself because are afraid of cancer.

27 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-06 16:10

>>26
That's why I'm preparing my computer, etc. for when the time comes.

What's the best method though? I don't want it to be a mess. Wish I just had an IV hookup or something and could press a button...

28 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-06 16:29

>>27
Also you can avoid paying child support if you leave your country.
Sometimes.

How did you even know you have a child?

29 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-06 16:41

>>28
Because I know what I look like and he looks just like I did when I was a toddler and the dates match up even tho she told me it wasn't mine.

30 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-06 16:55

>>29
She told you it wasn't yours?
Then why are you afraid.

31 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-06 17:30

>>28
I can't make a quit exit and my life would be fucking horrible in some 3rd world, non-extraditing country anyway.

32 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-06 17:32

>>30
Because I'm 99.9% sure it is. That was probably just to keep me away until they were ready to involve me.

Would be a twist though if I killed myself and it wasn't mine. But I'm certain it is.

33 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-06 18:12

>>32
Just live till they involve you.
Then choose the easy way out.
Cyanide or CO is a nice death

34 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-06 18:22

>>33
Explain more please.

How do I do those?

35 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-06 18:35

open bank account
don't know if this shit exists but have it so you can't access money but you can put money in
savings account
work until the kid is 18
when he graduates write him a letter
make up some bullshit about how she never let you see him despite your best intentions
the bank account is his, it's not much but it's all you can give him
instant best friend to the kid unless he's a greedy or emotional homosexual

36 Name: Anonymous : 2015-07-06 18:38

>>35
That won't happen. They'll come after me sooner. And if they never did, I'd be in constant worry anyway.