Hi /lounge/, femanon here. I'm starting to think i'm in an abusive relationship and i need some advice.

I don't want to break up with my boyfriend. i'm deeply in love with him, that's why i wanna fix things . I was the happiest woman in the world until i started to talk about our relationship with some of my female friends, and then i started to look at things differently.

I'm starting to think that i'm being abused for the following reasons:

- He does not allow me to have a Facebook, instagram, twitter or any social media account.

- he demands sex every day. if i refuse he gets mad and i end up doing as he says. If i'm really sick he spares me but masturbates in front of me.

- he says gifts are for birthdays and christmas only, he never surprises me with something nice.

- since we moved together, he is being extremely strict about organization. He went as far as emptying my own purse, and yelling and demanding me to keep everything neat (my own purse). He doesn't make me wash the dishes, cook or clean the house by myself, we both do these things, but he will not tolerate any mess, NEVER! when i get home tired, i have to take off my shoes, my clothes, take a shower and then i am "allowed" to use the house.

- we go out a lot but he never let me go out mith my friends alone.

- he is into sports a lot, and he makes me go the gym at least 4 times a week. He says he is going to dump me if i don't workout. He laughs when he says it, but i know he is serious.

- If i do anything he disapproves, he says we can't be together anymore. if he does something i don't like, and i say the same, he just laughs and say he will miss me.it is like he doesn't care at all.

- he encourages me to work and study more, and more and more, and this is very stressfull sometimes. We split all checks and bills.

Reading all this made me feel like i'm being used. On the other hand, he seems to have some sort of supernatural power over me, making me feel obliged to do as he says. Help me /lounge/, what can i make to improve this relationship ?

tl;dr boyfriend is abusing me

Leaving him is the only way to escape that kind of hell. But be honest, have you done anything before that to make him disrespect you so much?