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Is it possible to regain cats trust?
1 Name: Anonymous : 2014-10-14 22:48
I recently adopted a little kitten. He's 8 weeks old now, was around 6,5 week old when I got him. I am feeding him, giving him love, talking to him, playing with him, generally taking care of him as good as I can - sometimes I am over sociable with him, but I learn to let him go when he needs some time alone.
For week and a half he was at my family home - with me, my brother and mother. He loved me, he showed me affection, licked my face, headbutted me, etc, generally all those things that cat do to show you they like/love you. It was all great until I had to go for couple of days to attend lectures at my university (I have classes like 3 days in a week, rest of the time I spend at home). I took him with me, everything was ok, but the flat in that other city is small - just one room, bathroom. He was playful, running around and going under the bed - which I didn't like, so I made sure all the entries under the bed are blocked, but he still managed to somehow find his way in. So I got very angry - like very, very angry... I smacked his butt three times, he was scared and didn't know what was going on. I released him, he run under the bed, so I caught him again, but he slipped, so I pulled him by his tail and he was doing that noise when he's very angry and agressive. I abused him physically and I really regret that - I couldn't sleep for a whole night, but he still came to sleep near me. Today things are pretty ok, he's still playful, purrs when I pet him, but I can't freely pet his belly, he didn't lick my face yet. I tried to apologize him, I was talking to him, doing all that cat apology things and I feel horrible, I'm terrified that I lost his love and trust. What do I do now? I'm an awful person, I know. He's playing with me now, with his favourte paper ball I made him, he purred today when I petted him before my classess and purred after I came back. Do I fucked up bad? Will he still love me? Please help...
2 Name: Anonymous : 2014-10-14 23:59
cats dont give a fuck find something the fucker hates stuff it under your bed and move on faggot
3 Name: Anonymous : 2014-10-15 01:11
>>1Holy shit. Daddy hit you a few too many times. Seriously though, without a shred of sarcasm or trolling, give the cat away and kill yourself.
4 Name: Anonymous : 2014-10-15 02:29
Hardly any cat likes their belly touched. It's a vulnerable spot. The fact he's still affectionate is a good sign.
5 Name: Anonymous : 2014-10-15 05:32
I abuse my cat way more than that and she still likes me when I'm nice.
You'll be fine.
6 Name: Anonymous : 2014-10-15 06:43
Also I'm a restless as fuck sleeper, my cat sleeps cuddled up to me under the covers. The amount of times I've turned around and accidentally slogged her in the face, she still is very affectionate. I shit bricks when I do it though but she's tough
7 Name: Anonymous : 2014-10-15 07:02
>>1Yo, OP.
I've had my cat for 10 years+ now.
Got him @ 6 months, and for the first couple years when I was in my teens, I would TERRORIZE the shit out of this cat.
Cat would hide from me, hiss at me when I got close, etc. I was a shitty and troubled teen.
Anywho, once I got older, I starting showing affection, love, etc to the little shit. Took a couple of years to rebuild the trust I lost for the couple years I was a shithead, but now..
The cat sleeps with me, follows me, "talks" to me, walks all over me, rubs my face and hands, all the good shit. Just me and him, and we are happy.
Don't feel bad, just try to not be a total shithead like I was.
TL;DR--- You will be fine, faggot.
8 Name: Anonymous : 2014-10-15 08:45
>>4But he loved it. He always enjoyed it and allowed me to do it. He always slept on my lap, never left the room without me, even with doors open and other people kindly inviting him. I know he might not like me now, but I hope he'll get over it. I ordered pretty expensive and top quality treats for him for over a hundred dollars to compensate it.
>>3I can deal with it. You've no idea how ashamed I am. He's my beloved kitty and I will never hurt him. He's so adorable.
9 Name: Anonymous : 2014-10-15 09:14
Your cat will always love you but can get to a point when it's too scared to even be vulnerable around you. Giving him a little smack like that when he's doing something you don't like but going over the top like that will cause a lot of problems. If he ever gets pissed off just give him some time to cool off. And it might be hard to stop him going under the bed, he'll always find a way :P
10 Name: Anonymous : 2014-10-15 10:11
OP, I am not telling you this out of hatred. But unfortunately you are a defect. I know you don't want to believe it, and it feels like you can change.... but listen man, you are just a defect.
You would save yourself a lot of pain if you just killed yourself. Your life is going to be tough. Just wanted to tell you. Things don't get better from here kiddo.
11 Name: Anonymous : 2014-10-15 10:45
>>8 Disagree. We are both sound asleep and all of a sudden she gets woken up with a human hand coming at a substantial speed to her head? I'd sure be pissed off if I was her
12 Name: Anonymous : 2014-10-15 11:12
What do you expect fagot ? They cat does not understand that you did not want him under the bed. its a fucking cat. He finds enclosed places a a safe haven, nice to be at. You tore his ass away from that and assaulted him while he tried to flee probably to the same place because he feels safe there. The cat does not understand why you are mad. The cat does not understand a apology. you ingrained it into his little head that you are irrationally aggressive and territorial. He will take that into account interacting with you in the future for a long time.
Shit will take time. instead of apology sing which is meaningless beside for consoling yourself, how about you go and research cat behavior and living needs. And do some serious reflecting on why you lose your temper and physically assault a cat which is completely dependent on you, has no ill feeling towards you and does not even comprehend why this giant fucking being is fucking hurting him.
Oh yea, forgot the most important thing.
If you see yourself doing this again please go kill yourself.
13 Name: Anonymous : 2014-10-15 11:34
>>10you sound like a fucking muslim. I hate muslims.
14 Name: Anonymous : 2014-10-15 14:30
15 Name: Anonymous : 2017-03-25 22:32
My cat hates me, the whole point of the litter is to have us clean his shitty mess, It literally comes inside, uses the litter and walks back out. Then he wants to be fed so he can play his sick game again.
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